How to choose a divorce lawyer???

Marriages are not made in heaven and yes everyone can mistakes. So if you are considering for taking divorce, these points might come in handy for you while choosing a divorce lawyer. 

• If lawyer empathizes too much with your pain then you should avoid it. When you see a doctor for a headache it gives you medicine to stop that. Not identify with your pain. Keep this in mind. 
• Your lawyer should be a good listener. A good lawyer knows your personality, desires, weaknesses. This knowledge can be gained only by carefully listening. 
• Laws are set up to help both divorcing parties establish themselves after a divorce. There is no place in a divorce courtroom for vengeance. Your lawyer should tell you this.
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• Calls your spouse names. It is common – although not recommended – for divorcing couples to call each other names. It is unacceptable, however, for a lawyer to engage in this kind of conduct. Your lawyer should be seeking to help you view your situation objectively. Name-calling is never objective.
• Uses inflammatory language. Over the top language does not help resolve conflict. It won’t help you reach a fair outcome in your case. It only makes things worse. When used by a lawyer, inflammatory language also shows a lack of professionalism.
• Excessively criticizes other lawyers. In ideal divorces there is a lot of collaboration and trust between the opposing lawyers. A lawyer who cannot get along with other lawyers could wreak havoc on this balance. Also, these things are usually reciprocal – why don’t other lawyers like your lawyer?
• Tells you he’ll “take care” of the divorce for you. There is no divorce lawyer who can “take care” of your case while you sip a martini. Divorce is hard work for everyone involved. There are documents to produce, depositions to attend and court documents to review. Anyone who claims otherwise is not being honest.
• Predicts the future. Some parts of a case can be somewhat accurately predicted (child support, for example). Most outcomes are not so clear. In truth, outcomes are often a gamble. A lawyer who tells you they have all the answers may be full of hot air.
• Buys your blatant lies. Nobody likes a liar or a cheater. If your divorce lawyer overlooks your bad behavior it is not because they like you. They’ll drop you like a hot potato when you run out of cash.
• Does not express his views. It is a lawyer’s job to encourage clients to make the best decisions for their case. This is often in conflict with the path a client feels is best. A lawyer who does not make his views known might be doing you a great disservice.